Yumi Stynes splits from husband Martin Bendeler, breaks down on live radio

TV and radio presenter Yumi Stynes has separated from her second husband and the father of two of her children, Martin Bendeler, after nine years of marriage.

The mother of four, 46, broke down in tears live on KIIS FM’s 3pm Pick-Up on Tuesday as she shared heartbreaking details of the couple’s split.

Stynes, who has moved out of the marital home and into her own apartment, said it was daunting having to start her life over again as a single mother for a second time.

While she did not reveal why they broke up, things appear to be acrimonious because she claims her ex changed the locks to their house.

The former Channel [V] host married Bendeler in 2012 and they welcomed a daughter and a son together.

She was previously married to musician Ben Ely, with whom she shares two older children, from 2000 to 2008.

It’s over: TV and radio presenter Yumi Stynes has separated from her second husband and the father of two of her children, Martin Bendeler, after nine years of marriage

‘I’m going through a separation at the moment and there’s kids involved and my ex is involved I don’t want to say anything that hurts these people,’ she said through tears.

‘I have had to find an apartment, had to move my stuff, all my crap is in boxes and bags… I had to change my address, throw out the keys that don’t work anymore…’ 

Stynes said it had been an intense few weeks and she was still coming to terms with becoming a single parent again. 

‘Throw out the keys that don’t work anymore’: While she did not reveal why they broke up, things appear to be acrimonious because she claims her ex changed the locks to their house

‘It’s been a lot. I spent the weekend moving and I feel like I’m starting my new life now as a single mum. Here I am again,’ she wept.

Stynes said she wasn’t ready to tell the full story of the split, but expects she will still be processing her grief for another year. 

‘I have hundreds and thousands of words to say but I don’t think I’m ready yet,’ she told listeners.

‘Break-ups aren’t over quickly. I’ll probably be in this process for another year… I probably will be up and down in the future,’ she added.

Hard times: ‘I’m going through a separation at the moment and there’s kids involved and my ex is involved I don’t want to say anything that hurts these people,’ Stynes said through tears 

Stynes’ radio co-host Kate Langbroek praised her for her ‘strength’ and ‘courage’.

‘Your strength is second to none and I’ve been in awe of you through this… It’s so courageous to make a change. It’s bloody hard and courageous,’ Langbroek said.

Stynes and Bendeler wed in 2012, after she proposed to him on February 29, which as a leap day is traditionally the day women can propose marriage to men.

They share two children, daughter Mercy, six, and a five-year-old son whose name has not been revealed but whom Stynes refers to as ‘Man Baby’.

Their story: Stynes and Bendeler wed in 2012, after she proposed to him on February 29, which as a leap day is traditionally the day women can propose marriage to men

She also has two teenage children, Anouk, 19, and Dee Dee, 17, from her marriage to Ben Ely of the Australian rock band Regurgitator.

Stynes wrote an article for the ABC last year about how to stay friends with an ex-partner based on her experience co-parenting with Ely.

She encouraged people to ‘take time apart when it first happens, encourage mutual respect and redraw the boundaries of your relationship’.

‘Breaking up “well” isn’t something you think about when you’re in the flush of new love,’ she wrote.

‘And when it all falls apart, staying friendly isn’t necessary – unless you share something vital, like a business, all your friends, a creative project or, in our case, children.’

Tough: Stynes wrote an article for the ABC last year about how to stay friends with an ex-partner based on her experience co-parenting with his first husband, musican Ben Ely

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